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What does "relationship" mean?

What does “relationship” mean? It implies the relating of two separate identities, two distinct points of view on the same situation. Separation is not your original nature, not the Self in its purity, that is in relationship with another. Within silence, peace, infinity, there can be no relationship, because there is no other. It is […]

Rotate the Boss

Every Saturday morning we clean the house. We start by sitting down together and listing all the jobs that need to be done. Then everyone gets to be the boss for half an hour. We always start with Shuba, our youngest. While he is boss, everyone must do what he says. He is the king. He will check if […]

What to do when someone is upset with you

Before we go any further you might ask the legitimate question,  “What are your qualifications, Arjuna Ardagh,  to write an article on this subject? Are you a psychologist?” “No, I am not.” “Are you a licensed psychotherapist?” No, also not.” “Do you have a Pd.D. in communications?” “Ummmmm.  No, I’m afraid not.” “So what on […]

Couples Puja

      This is a powerful practice to do with your intimate partner. Once you are awake in the morning, Sit opposite each other on the bed. Take turns doing this practice. Look into one of your partner’s eyes. One of you will go first: When it is your turn Express love, devotion and […]

Give Appreciation

      Here is a practice from my book Leap Before You Look: Everyday, make sure you express five things that you appreciate about your partner. You can sprinkle these appreciations throughout the day. Or you can sit down and do them all at once as a structured practice, Which will only take a […]

Big Event

In honor of Valentine’s Day next week, here is a passage about sex from my book The Translucent Revolution. All sex, in fact all life everywhere, is about the meeting of masculine and feminine energy, the meeting of consciousness and light. This does not mean that men always represent the masculine, or that women always […]

Love Deeply

We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, which is a time when all of us give a little extra nurturing to intimate relationship. If you’ve been married for 40 years, this might be a time to express your gratitude for all that’s been shared. If you’re newly together, this is the season to commit more deeply. […]

Share Witholds

Here is practice from my book Leap Before You Look. Sit together with your intimate partner Or a close friend. Decide who will be partner A, And who will be B. Partner A, You are going to share five withholds: Something significant And relevant to your relationship That has not been said. This could be […]